The
big ISSUE in child raising appears (to parents who
coast on automatic pilot) to be the
achievement of an obedient child. To
accomplish this, parents unfortunately seek to manifest
that THEY as parent, clearly are entitled by
divine right to total control and the formula is:
hammer the kid into perfection.
That's all very well
for France in the l700's or Germany in Hitler's time and
it's great for the parent who's Hitler in his own home
but if you're involved in that DIVINE CONTROL terrain,
your KID is not having a good time. He is at war and he
is losing that war daily and learning to feel like a
loser. (And he's having a lot of covert aggression
and resentment and will become a
chronic HATER who enjoys acting out on others, being
cruel, snapping a whip, an emotional rollercoaster for
anyone who knows them and his own mate won't tolerate
him and YOU WILL LOSE THE GRANDKIDS just when you'd want
to enjoy them. (And those kids you would have spoiled
and they'd have adored you.) So don't be a control freak
with your own kids. There's an alternative way to
raise a child to function that entails the LAW OF
ATTRACTION.
The child can become
FASCINATED and attracted by SUCCESS thru following the
rules of life. He doesn't need to be brutalized by a
parent. The child forced to do things all the time will
adroitly learn to HIDE his hatred of humanity, even
pretending mannerliness and elegance, but he will rarely
feel love for others and will always know that he fakes
it, that he is a liar only interested in supremacy, who
has his fun mistreating others, shaming or denegrating
them . That grown child will always hate himself worst
of all. His life will be littered with incidents where
he has a glass of wine and turns insane and this alter
ego comes out which PRETENDS TO BE OFFENDED at something
the hated person did. He 'takes offense' and we all know
that the person who continually TAKES OFFENSE puts as
much misery into this life as the person who commits an
offense. But the HATER enjoys TELLING others off,
BARKING loudly at them, insulting them, taking control
in a rude way, grinding others into feeling the same
hurt that he felt as a child.
So, as parents,
let's not buy into the control habit. Avoid the
least irritation when YOUR CHILD shows WILL of their
own. AVOID adult resentment of the appearance of
LOSS OF CONTROL OVER THE KID. That is a big error in
adult thinking, which promotes even your more flawed
decisions being written into some kind of ' granite'
law, thusly creating permanently scarred, wounded and
potentially MEAN CHILDREN. If you're struggling with
obedience and control issues, you already lost the war,
a long time ago and are heading into problem teen/ adult
terrain. What is wrong with you that you're such a bug
on that issue?
The best progress is
won without battles and won subtly --- so that there
never was a fight, there never was a discussion. The war
is won when there is no confrontation. Peace is achieved
when the subject of conflict doesn't come up. Close down
the Pentagon, parents. Avoid all pentagon strategies.
Come from behind, gently, don't shove, get them to JOIN
you. That way, you both MOVE ahead. To keep you on track
with this change,FREQUENTLY remember your own PENTAGON
parents, the abuse that made you this way, and
frequently say "God-that-is-my-own evolving mind...I was
warped in the crib by others, help me out of the scar
tissue that I have. Help me see how to work on being
kinder."
One of the main
battlegrounds which we're going to look at as an example
of a choice parents make that isn't a good one, which
the child fights and which becomes endangering to the
child occurs in infancy is BEDTIME. This is potentially
a frontier 'for war or peace' so let's look at it.
BEDTIME and all
related activities, (turning off TV, brushing teeth,)
involve the child learning to 'run' his body, his
vehicle, his machine correctly. He has to do something
that's against the grain. Give up a movie or tv show.
Wash up, brush his teeth. Hit the sheets when he's
strung out, in high hilarity and interested in the night
time fun with the group all around. In a way it's
similar to potty training time, when he was FORCED to
unclothe and run to bathroom just because you said so.
Or it's like formal adult mealtime which seemed
unnecessarily static, sitting in a chair and all, when
he can just run around snacking. But the big one is
BEDTIME.
A child who wants to
go to bed, looks forward to it, lies down and goes to
sleep promptly and does so automatically every night
runs his body perfectly. That child has had the right
habits introduced effectively . His parents introduced
the bedtime routine and habit on the fun level.
He is ATTRACTED to the activity. In this case, the
activity being an hilarious and original bedtime
story ! You turn him into a baby beaver for one story,
into an elephant on the savannah for another. Every
night a new story where he is the baby tiger who can't
kill mice, who becomes a fruterian. Go crazy with plots.
That's introducing a prompt bedtime on the neural
pleasure level, not the LOSE A WAR level. He never
fought you as what you offered was fun. That child is
unaware there is a big bedtime struggle going on ---
he's jumping in that bed to hear his story!
He's much better off
than the POST-war-with-his parent- casualty kid who has
lost a lot of battles and been FORCED to run his body
according to HOYLE, or go to sleep in his crib like a
good little kid at a given hour, and do it Mom's way or
the Highway. That kid will have permanent bedtime
issues. Permanent craziness. Permanent warp and
Rebellion along with a lifetime of going to bed at weird
hours, not enough sleep or insomnia. And that child will
be a permanent dweeb because he lost all those battles!
Organized patriarchial countries create nazis. Nazis
don't create those countries.
SUBTLY Introducing
body habits on the neural level so that they become
automatic is better than having a war where the kid
insists on going his own way and where you say it's the
wrong way and there's a fight and you beat
him into submission and he's pouting all the time. That
creates the maverick who's chomping at the bit. You
create 'triggers' in him that will lay in the child for
the years he's under your 'control' but which will
surface later as BODY DYSFUNCTIONS, as uncooperative
manias, an urge not to go to sleep at anything
approximating a 'right' time. SO seek to instill self
mastery in the child, not master-ship for you, the
parent.
Parents might want
to discover ways to introduce good body habits by
seeking to make it fun, so the child's tropism moves him
to repeat it, next time. Seek to introduce good habits
by osmosis, by routine, by habit and not by force or
'laying trips' on the child's mind.
Parents should not
suggest a moral obligation, an ethical tilt to the
universe, that 'one way is good, the other bad'. This
would get the child into good/bad thinking, the fruit of
which is Guilt.
Parents frequently
steer children into the "LONGING TO CONTROL, HATING TO
OBEY" terrain. Not a good place. Obedience is the worst
tyrant. SHUN it. He's a false friend. If you are
creating an obedient kid, you are creating a kid who
will be victimized by others for the rest of his days.
In the last decade
much attention has been paid to the food issues that
guilt can steer young people into, Compulsions about
what is eaten, when one eats and the conflicts, guilts,
fights that arise in this arena. Overeating, cramming,
binging, anorexia, fasting, starving, schizophrenia
induced by starving, all the food issues. Food is on our
minds but nobody thinks of the huge amount of
sleep-related psychosis created in infancy that pave the
way for dysfunctional adult insomnia, fatigue, aging,
loss of mental health.
A GROWN UP, SLEEP
IMPAIRED PERSON can't punch out his own lights. He's
groggy in the daytime. His life decisions are impaired.
He drives cars badly. He never has the energy to create
his own success.You want to prevent sleep psychosis from
day one.
FOR AN INFANT,
separation from the parent by the dark bedroom is a
looming misery each and every night. EASY SLEEP must be
achieved without that occurring. The infant should
welcome the crib event at day's end. The falling onto
his soft bedding and having the covers pulled up should
be the crowning frosting on the cake of his day, not the
END OF THE GOOD times and an abhorred HORROR but a GOOD
TIME IN ITSELF.
It's incumbent upon
the parent to come up with some wonderful ways to make
the going-to sleep period enchanting. STUPID
TIRED, CRASS, CROSS impatient parents are abrupt. They
want the kid asleep so they can go on with their lives
and the kid sees it, and this throws him into pain. He
cries. But that doesn't stop the impatient for bedtime
parent. That parent is goal oriented. He / She will
throw a bottle into the baby's mouth (which by the way,
will rot his budding teeth. What a lousy habit THAT is).
This parent will also throw the baby into a dark room
and coo him into shutting up then fool him by sneaking
out and then when the baby cries, yell him into
submission or leave him alone weeping until he shuts up.
Or run the vacuum cleaner or the radio until he stops
weeping.
That baby has a
right to be injured, wounded, hurt, betrayed and to yell
about the defecting, abandoning parent, scurrying out,
leaving Binky to a dark room and terrifying solitude. So
don't do it. And also, don't beat that fight out of him
when he complains because a.) you'd be dead wrong and
b.) you're teaching him to be an obedient loser.
The REMEDY? After
that dinner, the toddler wants a substantial play
period. Give him that physical play in a soft way, so he
doesn't get his heart pumping, Quiet play. Some people
blitz the kid with food so he'll sleep. It isn't a good
idea to show a young person that FOOD is sleep. Or that
food is to zone out. That's not a good lesson and a lot
of people learn it too well and use food as an anodyne
and stuff at bedtime to make certain they'll sleep and
my yoga teacher said eating before bedtime isn't
healthy.
Dinner is a social
hour, and the time after it is conversational.
Interacting is done. Our body's fed, it has energy, it
wants to interact. Food isn't intended as a sleeping
pill. It gives energy. Use that energy up.
If we engrave on the
body's neural mind that food turns off our lights, and
that it's a good way to GO BLANK... you're teaching an
adult to EAT to go to sleep which will produce a fat
adult. What you're teaching a child when you let him
SUCK himself to sleep, or eat himself to sleep is to
zone out with food.
Not only are you
rotting his teeth, you're rotting his SPIRIT MIND
connection, because you're NOT using that bedtime story
time for some imaginative 'radio' show time. You're also
making him a candidate for fat, heart disease and
diabetes and you're saying goodbye to any possibility of
developing the PSYCHIC abilities of the MIND which can
be awakened by having good energy in the body at
bedtime, and being in the dark, peaceful happy, hearing
Mommy or Daddy tell a bedtime story with lots of images
so baby can do some envisioning.
Parents want to
stage manage a period of baby being in the social phase
after dinner. Then there is this new rite that YOU might
do your for 'super child in the marking' --- psychic
envisioning after lights-out, with the parent
encouraging the infant to use his inner eye, his
envisualization faculties, as you tell bedtime stories.
I am reminded of a Radio fan who said he didn't like
television as much because one was limited in what you
could SEE. In radio dramas, he saw it better.
We would much rather
teach the super baby how to use an inner eye, than teach
him how to go blotto on food and satisfy the impatient
parent's need to get on with his EVENING.
You HAD the darn
kid, you brought him to this karmic plane, now,
for God's sake, don't just slam him on a mattress and
turn off the light and say fatuously, 'sleep with the
angels' because he can't and won't. If you want him to
sleep with angels, then be an angel. Tell him bedtime
stories.
Teach him to enjoy
all the marvelous buttons he has on his mental
dashboard. There is a wonderful button there that works
for 'dark room inner eye imagery.' A fantastic pineal
button. An actual vestigal eye, rods and cones material
left over from our days as a light-clocking, sea-anenome
type organism that needed to know when days got longer
and it was summer and time to make offspring.
You may not have
used it in your lifetime but just because your parents
were asleep and hence you are, doesn't mean this new
babe, the flowering of two billion years of cellular
evolution has to stagger around in the same low,
no-third- eye state. He is the flowering bud on the
final branch and twig of a billion year evolution. He
can do things you cannot. Or he will when WE get
finished with him. It may be that our generation is not
even fit to teach our children as we are so limited, but
it's time to have faith that even a cripple can teach
ballet, and give it a try.
After Binky has his
bottle, he can do some social interacting with the
people in the living room, his toys, his friends. That
separates the FOOD thing from the SLEEP thing. You don't
want them any blurred link there as it produces people
who zone out with food, practically a national habit in
America.
When the LIVING room
interacting comes to an end, we start a peaceful session
of Parent and Baby chilling out together in the DRESS
FOR SLEEP phase. This involves undressing, putting on
PJ's and a new diaper. Do the complete mouth rinse with
water. Always teach a toothless infant how to rinse the
oral cavity and spit. OR if teeth are budding, you might
brush the little tooth buds, absolutely avoiding
flouride or aspartame!! Now, into the sheets, while
parent gives some gentle spine-work. Not on the
vertabrae but on the fillet mignon on both sides. Soft
upward strokes, very soft, relaxing.
Then, Baby's in the
crib, light's off. you are seated next to him, and now
comes the 'LET'S INTERACT IN THE DARK and use your third
eye as a pre-sleep toy' phase. The parent talks or tells
stories, or makes animal sounds into a story, 'meow meow
goes the cat, Ruff Ruff goes the dog. Pssss Psss goes
the bird, GRRRR goes Daddy. EEEOWW goes MOMMY.' The
child is enjoying the joke, laughing. Your fingers graze
the hand or forehead or forearm and gives sounds or
words that have IMAGES attached and does so until the
little feller drops off into sleep.
No slamming him on a
mattress and leaving. No abandonment. The 'happy bedtime
baby' is envisualizing while the parent is suggesting.
Dog images. Parent images. He's tripping. It's a
fantastic new habit. The only way to go to sleep.
ENVISUALIZING.
If baby went to the
ocean that day, you might do ocean noises. If he went to
super market, you'll remind him of the melons, the
oranges, if he went to the neighborhood communal garden,
he might have a better view of melons and oranges. You
remind him of those words. Perhaps food images aren't as
good as the zoo. You took him to the zoo that day. The
smell of animals, the names of the MONKEY, Akka Akka
Akka. The BULL. MOOOO.
You might play the
sound box. You plug it in, the thing does rain,
waterfalls, ocean, car traffic. Wonderful idea. You can
tell stories to that, changing the settings as you go.
NOW, if you already
have a TODDLER, and this article hit you too late, then
CONTROL, OBEDIENCE issues related to the hour of sleep
are probably already in place. While we can't be sure
he's headed for a lifetime of sleep problems, he has not
yet used that vacant space in the mind for fun
envisualizing. He's sort of missing a chance of making
an early spirit/mind link.
But all you can see
now is that this toddler does not want to go to bed. He
knows he's going to experience BOREDOM as well as
separation. He knows he lost a battle with a tyrant
parent. So with older children, simply retrace,
re-pattern, telling your own stories in the dark.
A whole range of
mental talents will have opened up for any toddler who,
as an infant, was taken on the DARK ROOM CRIB STORY
adventure. But if we're starting with a toddler who's
already stuck in bad habits, we need to reprogram or
re-pattern neural nexuses. Start the new light turn off
session with YOU being in the room with him. He'll go
HUH? As he's prepared to go to sleep. But try to
reawaken those third eye abilities anyway.
We need to get him
up to speed by doing soft voice story telling, verbally
conducted tours on imagery trips with gentle strokes on
the third eye, forehead area, (your electrical fingers
will actually re-awaken a dormant third eye). And
combine the story telling with thing she saw that day.
If he was at Nursery School he knows words like blocks,
Mrs. Jones, Mrs. Smith. Teacher, so we incorporate those
people in his visuals. And, we need to do it for several
weeks or months to create a habit. No books with reading
lights that might make him start watching you, the
parent, in the flashlight's glow.
After forty days of
dark story telling, when he knows how to use the
imagination, you can use a dim light, if you can read by
a l0 watt bulb and even then, only occasionally. We are
seeking to encourage the inner eye. So parent, tell the
story in the dark. That means it has to come from your
HEAD. If you're no Mark Twain or Dr. Seuss, it means you
have to make stories out of what the child did that day
or read children's books, memorize them. Won't it be a
thrill when that kid later encounters the BOOK with
illustrations of a story he's been hearing by 'radio.'
He's suddenly reading, seeing the pictures involved with
the story you gave him in his infancy and now he sees a
book on it! Trippy.
After a long day,
you are not at your freshest so keep a lounger chair in
that room so you can be semi-reclining, feet up, small
of back supported, and go 'timeless' on the kid, and not
be in a mommy-daddy adult-sized hurry!
Lounging will enable
you to take time when you tell a story and make certain
he falls asleep envisualizing it, and doesn't have to
fall asleep alone, after you've left the room, as then
he starts to realize that story telling will be followed
by separation, a very painful thing.
There are two things
we're seeking to prevent here. One is separation
anxiety, the second is preventing 'I'm Ready to sleep
when I'm Goddamn ready," syndrome. You don't want
children to learn to fall asleep only when BEATEN DOWN
to a pulp, or when physically exhausted, or so crammed
with food they're soporific.
The thinking
patterns of exhausted children are too nutsy. They feel
insulted, wounded, not wanted. We don't want to go
there. Also, ending the day thinking, 'she didn't want
to be with me, she was anxious to get out, I'm probably
a big drag, she doesn't really like me or find me
interesting' is not a good thought to put into the
unconscious' suggestion box.
And in an age of so
many angry, truant children appearing, You obviously
don't want the child to learn to battle you or submerge
their urge and be angry, which is what happens when YOU
TELL THEM they are tired, when they're "clearly not
feeling tired yet" because they start to feel you're a
lying, inaccurate, oppressive monster who just doesn't
want them around.
You're telling them
stuff that's patently untrue, and that's their last
thought every night. No good. Nor do you want to go NEAR
that classic struggle that occurs when the PARENT says
that a certain hour is the RIGHT time to 'turn off the
light time' and they don't feel it yet. Right and wrong
Good and bad issues frequently become a polluted area of
the mind. What Freud called the primal separation
between the ID, Unconscious and the SUPER EGO, a primal
split-off which can never mend which will always create
duality and where there's duality, there's the devil.
I know many children
who are now adults who have horrendous amounts of
activity issues. They're guilty because they feel what
they're doing isn't right: their use of time, all sorts
of time use issues: I'm wasting time. I'm not using my
time. This isn't the right way to do something. Did I do
it right? Fear, anxiety, judgement of right/wrong has
been instilled in infancy. We've all seen adults with
'food morality' issues. A certain food isn't right. It's
immoral. It's not PC. I shouldn't eat it but I love it.
That kind of thing. They starve, fast, go without, deny
themselves and/or feel entitled to indulge then they eat
like a ravenous hyena.
What that is....is
--- there's a MORAL quotient being sought thru action or
FOOD. They are seeking right and goodness. Seeking to
discard sin. They have guilt. And we all know that
people with guilt grow up to be suppressive, repressive,
even to wage wars on the unholy. They become seekers of
unholy people. They waste huge amounts of energy
'catching' bad people. They become cop mentality people.
A lot of that can start with action guilt or food guilt.
It tends to create aberrant habits like pride, ego,
hate, all in the name of purity. Others binge and sin as
a reaffirmation of their own helplessness in the grip of
their demons. Both are crazy as coots.
Recently, a cult leader in Uganda
led an organized massacre of 150 NON MEMBERS and 2 other
cult leaders were just found in another mass, cult
suicide or murder. 500 people had given up their will,
had been taught to give over their control to a parent
figure who taught them to do what is right. This cult
was called 'the Group to Put back the Ten Commandments."
Of course, murder is a commandment so maybe they were
concerned with only NINE commandments. But they were
doing whatever the parent figure thought was right. And
oddly enough, this parent was lining them up, having
them sign insurance policies, then killing them, in
groups of twenty. One of the weirdest crimes for profit
in the history of humanity. But the point is, you don't
want to create obedient children. It's just too
dangerous with all the weirdos out there who want to
take over their life decisions.
And a third
aberration formed by the morality/ guilt trip is those
people who enjoy doing wrong, who require sin for
excitement, who enjoy and seek to be in the grip of a
passion, giving themselves over to toxic, destructive
relationships where they are totally without will power.
Where another is free to mistreat them, even. This is
masochism. Much of this very toxic mental habit starts
with good/bad issues. We teach the child that it is GOOD
to let another control him, and do as he wishes. We are
helpless to argue with that person or change them. We
can only be 'good little children' and accede, go along,
obey.
The child taught
that will learn to live with and even LOVE a person who
is controlling, cold, distant. The child that is
pre-conditioned by a distant controlling parent will
seek and find that kind of mate. They're programmed for
it. They will toss away kind people to get a sexy sadist
who keeps them in that sexual suspense, endorphins
flowing, masochism thrilled. We've all seen it happen.
The child
pre-conditioned this way will even become sexually
aroused by, interested in such cold, distant,
controlling people. That means that this entire tendency
will become 'energized.' Those circuits will become 'lit
up like a Xmas tree light' and become sexualized when
they start to have romances with cruel controlling
distance-choosing sweethearts.
A parent should
never reward a child with love for being obedient or for
being without will power. A much larger number of people
than you would imagine has developed the yin or female
side of their nature, the 'obedient' side and combined
it with the hormone estrogen, (they either have it as
they're women or manufacture it as men to become
feminized) and then they start to get a hormonal thrill
of 'delight' in being commandeered by another person. If
that isn't true, why would the rape fantasy be so common
and sexual to women? And men, for that matter.
We're adults. We
know that there are people who are SADO or MASO. The
sadistic beng loves saying no, loves pulling out their
friendship at regular instances, just to screw with
someone else's head. They particularly delight in
whipping a more delicate person. Then there are the
other end of spectrum types who seem to wear a sign on
their back saying 'kick me.' They become the long
suffering victims of a cruel person whom they befriended
or whom they love. You've heard of such duos.
EVERYONE is a little
sado or maso. Some people kick others and are themselves
kicked. 7 billion humans have these little aberrations
of subjection patterns and domination ones. Many are end
of the spectrum most of us are a middle-mix. What causes
it all?
The masochism and
sadism impulses are fed by the everyday hormones
secreted by the body. The habit to be cruel or provoke
anger of others,(the covert aggressive) rides in on a
flow of hormones. Also the resulting romantic
exhilaration may be caused by mind pictures entangling
with actual hormone flow, but here's a thought. may
even CAUSE the flow of these hormones so that certain
people become enthralled with distant, unloving,
judgmental love choices. We all know good women who love
really bad men and the other way around.
While Mother Nature
started this trend, and the hormones were put in all
bodies by evolution to predispose humans toward yin or
yang behavior (which creates a magnetic attraction
between opposites, and causes people to hitch up, get
married, or live together, which is nature's imperative
go get a child raised right)--end spectrum behavior need
treatment.
Nature created a
basic submissiveness of the estrogen female and a basic
aggressiveness of the testosterone male energy to get
the mating game accomplished. Nature didn't mean for
those two hormones to lend themselves to going OUT of
our way to pick mistreatment from partners and a weird
preference for toxic people.
The basic
mating-dance hormones can accidentally be commandeered,
used, or CREATED by humanity's chronic, SUPPRESSIVE
child- raising practices. Tyrannical parents create
twisted, either hostile or masochistic people who not
only CHOOSE to be helpless in the need to BE SADISTIC to
others to feel good, or alternately in the grip of
dominating authority/love figures but helpless in the
grip of food /drug addictions, helpless in their romance
lives, and in their careers.
This 'helplessness'
can be carried over into every other department of their
lives. We've all seen people who become permanently
passive recipients of 'help,' entertainment, guidance,
permanently unambitious, requiring wealthier more
self-determined people to carry them through life.
According to Freud,
the masochistic child (or later adult) may even sexualize
the passive state he's in, -- the state of being
mistreated, hurt, abandoned, the state of being alone,
having no sweetheart. They almost enjoy these
masochistic states to the point that they literally have
exquisite pangs of delight when they're mistreated or
when people are leaving the house, and leaving them
alone, (enabling them to relive 'old' and painful
events).
Some people
glamorize their Aloneness, infuse it with 'mystic
attributes' and spiritual dimensions. 'I am the ultimate
Taoist,' the ultimate forgiving Christian, the ultimate
hermit. I'm better than the rest of you." But basically
they're just sick campers, aroused by and overjoyed at
being totally abandoned, hurt, mistreated, controlled by
sick, distant, unloving, cold, nasty people and
pleasured in being left alone by their peers.
So stay away from
requiring your child's obedience. Stay away from 'do as
I say' without questioning me, and 'moral/immoral'
evaluations and 'good/bad' issues. Don't go there. Avoid
giving orders. You hate it when it's done to you and so
do children. Engage the child's mind to solve the
problem. I.e. 'what is your plan on getting this room
clean?' Instead of "clean the room now."*
Humans instinctively
want orderly rooms if the idea is presented reasonably.
Children evolve and become gracious without sternly
molding them into a quasi-gracious mold. They learn good
body habits without steam rolling out the bad ones by
labeling them 'BAD.' Don't catch your children being
bad. Catch them being GOOD.
Children learn they
are loveable by being praised for being good by being
loved. They learn they are worthy by being socially
enjoyed at playtime as a 'playmate' and an equal, ( not
abandoned as a boring, lower case person). You are the
president but they are the vice president and asking
them to structure the bath or room cleaning, asking them
for their view on it, is making them vice presidential
material.
We grow up to be
light seeking, not dark seeking, because life is
tropistic and love-seeking. By its own, natural self,
left alone like a weed, life will grow in a healthy way.
Your child will pick nice people, not control freaks.
All warping influences come to the infant from the
parent who means well but hasn't looked at his actions
from the heart.
If Nicole Simpson
had a heart centered childhood, she'd have never picked
a jealous control freak husband or endured him any
longer than a few dates. A healthy adolescent is
attracted only to healthy friendships and can spot a
psycho on a control trip. Your child will not bond with
an egomaniac who wants an audience, or who wants a
'trophy mate'. If your child is joyful and intuitive and
has learned to enjoy right use of his/her own will,
he'll exercise self-determination without fear or
inhibition. He will dump nasty people. So in essence, we
are ensuring that our children survive, are happy and
pick good mates when we launch them correctly. So when
we instill habits gently, we are affecting the destiny
of our grandchildren and hundreds of great great
grandchildren and thousands of great great great
grandchildren. In other words, we are changing the tempo
of the planet. We can cause evolution to leap forward.
We can forward the 'action' down here with intelligent
parenting.
You want your child
to learn to have enough self-image, receptivity and
reasonableness, intuition, the gift of evaluating,
enough faith in self to discard useless people. You want
him to have enough faith in his ability to sense warped
people, and know that he has to learn to step back from
them. You want your child to have faith in his ability
to act without fear. You want that child to have a
healthy, relaxed flow and even psychic abilities and
through this last ability, have frequent hunches,
intuitive evaluation, intuitive judgement so that he can
procure a well thought out, harmonious life.
Through a thing as
tiny as sleep practices at bedtime, a parent can open up
magical dimensions in the infant that will affect his
entire life. That child will learn to spend some time
each day in third eye reflection. A lot of us pay a guru
money to teach us to open this 'inner eye' in adulthood
when it's hard to jump start our visualization
abilities. This meditation or reflection or
envisualization is natural to children, but frequently
left to wither, as parents have no clue on how to
develop it.
The tutored
imagination, or 'third eye' faculty, will make your
child joyous. Enough of these joy babies get raised
and we will have a new human race. A happy safe
home, a fun bedtime are sure paths to a happy,
well-rounded, safe adulthood. Help the baby get
there, from word one.
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